Have you ever noticed that just as life starts going well, something seems to happen to derail it?
You get the promotion, meet a wonderful partner, grow your business, start earning more money, or finally feel happy and calm… and then suddenly anxiety, self-doubt, worry, procrastination, overwhelm or unexpected obstacles appear.
In this episode of the Inner Pickle Podcast, I explore Gay Hendricks’ concept of The Upper Limit Problem and explain why we unconsciously sabotage happiness, success, love, visibility and abundance.
We’ll explore:
✔ What upper limiting is and why it happens
✔ How childhood beliefs shape your internal “thermostat” for success and happiness
✔ Why worry, anxiety and self-doubt often appear when life starts improving
✔ The connection between self-sabotage and nervous system regulation
✔ How shame and guilt can keep you stuck
✔ Why identity change is essential for lasting success
✔ The power of visualisation and mental rehearsal
✔ A simple EFT-inspired exercise to calm your nervous system when you hit your upper limit
If you’ve ever wondered why you pull back from the very things you want most, this episode is for you.
CHAPTERS AND TIMESTAMPS
Use these for YouTube chapters:
00:00 When life is going really well… then suddenly isn’t
00:55 What is the Upper Limit Problem?
01:46 Your internal thermostat for success and happiness
04:48 Where upper limiting comes from
06:31 How relationships trigger upper limits
08:27 The many faces of self-sabotage
09:56 My 122-take podcast story – a clear upper limit!
11:37 How visualisation expands your nervous systems comfort zone
16:03 Tip 1: You called it in – now let your nervous system catch up
17:54 Tip 2: Observe, don’t absorb and go into the old stories
19:25 Louise Hay’s calming affirmation and…….
21:00 An EFT-inspired nervous system reset exercise
24:02 Tip 3: Keep the faith…………… in you!
25:12 Final thoughts on identity and expansion.
KEY POINT TO REMEMBER: Your upper limit isn’t showing you what’s impossible. It’s showing you where your nervous system currently believes expansion stops.